How to NOT have “Empty” Conversations (Pt 2 of 2)

Alrighty so as promised from Part 1’s – 9 Questions to kill awkward silence, here’s part 2. Enjoy 😉

9 more epic Questions to add to your arsenal:

  1. “What would your dream date be?” **Dates**
    This is obviously only for interactions when you’re out with a date… And for its obvious reasons as well. If you know what his or her dream date is, you can “Simulate” it for them, leading you to be the… Well, Dream Date.

    You sly thing.

    Actually… You CAN ask your pal just to find out what he or she likes. Who knows, maybe their significant other might approach you for help in future if you guys are best friends 😉

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  2. “What would you change about yourself?”
    Nobody is perfect. This means that no one is fully contented with themselves.

    Knowing one’s insecurities allows you to be able to establish a deep connection with each other as we learn to seek, understand and accept our flaws.

  3. “Who has influenced you most in life?”
    Life influences are good to know because they can tell you a lot about a person.If someone’s role model is a notorious celebrity or individual who spends money like they are drinking water, you will know that he or she wants to live the high life and be the center of attention.

    However, if their hard working caregiver was an influence instead, this can tell you a lot about them. If your role model is the same as your new friend’s? Awesome. You guys will click well and be in-sync immediately.

    It can sometimes be like you’ve just found a long lost family member.

  4. “What did you wanted to become when you were a kid?”
    Life dreams, aspirations and career choices.

    This is a question question that can really help get someone going but again, if they have no dreams/goals/ambitions, things can get awkward so as pointed in Qn 2, assist in guiding them through this question and if they stay unresponsive about it, just skip it and move on with the conversation.

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  5. “Are you close with your family?”
    Is he/she close with their family? This is a scary question because they either have the picture perfect family, or they have one that is less stable (E.g. Substance abuse etc).

    Knowing if they are close with their beloved ones gives you a better understanding of your pal and how to support them when the need arises.And of course, what to expect if you ever meet the subjects of the conversation as well.

  6. “What is one Book/Movie/TV Series that influenced your life?”
    Media entertainment always have a way of influencing our lives. If her favorite movie is The Vow, you will know she is a romantic.

    However, if he says something like “Scary Movie” or “Date Movie”, you can expect him to be someone with a specific set of humor which, may or may not be of your liking.

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  7. “Where is the one place in the world you feel most safe?”
    Feeling safe is something everybody wants. Safe place is sacred and can be anything from the beachside to the bedroom of the house that he or she grew up in.
  8. “What is the one thing you want to experience before you die?”
    Whether if it’s been put into physical form or not, a bucket-list is something that every individual has. Knowing what your new pal wants to do just once in their life is a great way to really get to know them.

    A person who just wants to try something like Sky-Diving or Bungee Jumping once is usually someone who don’t seek the physical adrenaline thrill much but is open to some crazy ideas whereas one who wouldn’t even dream of doing it would tend to be someone who’s less open to extreme things.You can also use this to your advantage if you want to plan a surprise for them and help them cross somethings off their list!

  9. “What is your ultimate goal in life?”
    My personal favorite.
    This is something that not only allows you to know the individual’s aspirations but also enables you to understand them. If their ultimate goal is to own a Bentley or meet a famous girl or dude, you might want to get out of dodge unless you have the same goal in mind.

    A good long-term relationship, be it romantic or not, require both parties to share a common life goal or at least, similar interests and if you don’t, your relationship will probably not last and wither with time.

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But of course, ultimately, it’s not about what topic you “Know” to talk about cause let’s face it, no matter how many topics you got lined up to bombard at your “Enemy”, you’d run out of ammo sooner or later if you don’t know how to manufacture these “Ammunitions” yourself to keep things going.

Hence, in my next article post, I will be giving you a tip on how to learn to come up with your own topics and questions to talk to people about. It’s gonna be fun so stay tuned to it!

Till then, if you feel that these 18 questions actually helped, do consider helping me reblog it to spread the love + knowledge with everyone (We’ll all love you for it :-P) and I will talk to you again soon. Stay awesome!

Your pal,
Benjamin

P.S. Relationships are like Flowers. It requires attention and effort to maintain and ensure it’s growth till it blossoms. Kill your personal toxins and choose the flowers that you know, can make your life beautiful and stay away from those that poisons your life.

P.S.S. If you truly wish to eliminate the frustration of always having the need to come up with something to talk about with people? Stop trying to find out what to say and instead, find out what the real issue is. Most of the social issues that we have comes from within ourselves.

Try reading these posts. It might be more useful for you:

Secret in Self-Issues or Surprising Truth Behind Fear and Fear of Interactions.

If you want to watch something funny while learning about a social taboo? Check out this video I made on “What NOT to say to someone about their hobby“!

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